فهرست مطالب راهنمای تصویری فرزندپروری درمانی:

Acknowledgements . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Part 1: Why Do Our Children Do the Tings Tey Do?!
1. Te Unskilled Pilot (A Lack of Trust) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
2. Te Spider Parent (Fear of Adults) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
3. My Friend the Spider (Staying Safe) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
4. Te Automatic Car (Illogical Behaviours) . . . . . . . . . . . 27
5. Te Plane Crash (Part 1) (Impulsiveness) . . . . . . . . . . . 31
6. Te Deal Breaker (Breaking Promises) . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
7. Te Land of Now (Unable to Link Cause and Effect) . . . . . 39
8. Te Crumbling Wall (Hidden Disabilities) . . . . . . . . . . . 43
Part 2: Raising Penguins
9. Penguins Don’t Fly (Our Children Are Different) . . . . . . . 49
10. Te Messy Nest (Destruction). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53
11. Te Girl Who Wouldn’t Try (Self-Sabotage) . . . . . . . . . . 57
12. Squeezing the Glass (Over-Controlling) . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
13. Te King of the Castle (Traditional Consequences Don’t
Work). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65
14. Lie Tennis (Lying). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69
15. Te Apprentice Who Wasn’t Sorry (Fake Apologies) . . . . . 73
16. Te Lift (Unintended Consequences). . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77Part 3: Ignorance Is Not Bliss: Te Unhelpful Others
17. Te Goldfsh (Risk-Averse Practice). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83
18. Te Measuring Stick (Judgement from Others) . . . . . . . 87
19. Te Cart (Our Burden) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91
20. Te Ostrich Teacher (Unhelpful Schools) . . . . . . . . . . . 95
21. Te Snowflake Parent (Unhelpful Others) . . . . . . . . . . . 99
Part 4: Parenting in the Trauma Tornado
22. Te Eye of the Storm (Managing Chaos). . . . . . . . . . . . 105
23. Te Elephant (Staying Kind). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
24. Te Steam Train (Keeping on Track) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113
25. Te Rude Wind (Responding to Rudeness) . . . . . . . . . . 117
26. Te Conductor (Controlling Behaviour) . . . . . . . . . . . . 121
27. Te Missiles (Responding to Arguing) . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125
28. Te Cliff Top (Keeping Boundaries) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129
29. Te Inquiry Lie (Honesty) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133
Part 5: SAFER Parenting: Terapeutic Responding
30. Te Needle on the Record (Changing Our Responses) . . . . 139
31. Te Plane Crash Part 2 (Unable to Calm) . . . . . . . . . . . 143
32. ACE Detective (Working Out What Is Behind the
Behaviour) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 147
33. Te Frightened Dog (Connecting in a Crisis) . . . . . . . . . 151
34. Sharing the PIE (Sibling Rivalry) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 155
35. Te Shame Pit (Overwhelming Shame) . . . . . . . . . . . . 159
36. Te Escalator (Natural and Logical Consequences) . . . . . . 163
Part 6: Where Did Tat Come From?!
37. Te Trapdoor (Triggers) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 169
38. Trauma Pancakes (Multiple Issues Surfacing). . . . . . . . . 17339. Te Jigsaw Child (Why Sabotage Happens) . . . . . . . . . . 177
40. Te Smoke Detector (Unexpected Behaviours) . . . . . . . . 181
41. Te Monster in the Cupboard (Difcult Quiet Times) . . . . 185
Part 7: Te Overwhelming Need
42. Te Two-Year-Old Psychopath (Lack of Empathy) . . . . . . 191
43. Te Pet Spider (Being Controlled) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 195
44. Memory Beach (Memory Issues) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 199
45. Te Hand-Grenade (Te ‘Trouble-Maker’) . . . . . . . . . . . 203
46. Te Car Crash (Feeling Overwhelmed) . . . . . . . . . . . . . 207
Part 8: Filling the Cup
47. Te Empty Cup (Exhaustion) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 213
48. Te Boring Place (Getting a Break) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 217
49. Eeyore Parenting (Losing Hope) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 221
50. Te Rabbit (Isolation) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 225
51. Te Empathy Bowl (Effective Listening) . . . . . . . . . . . . 229
Part 9: Hope
52. Te Twisty-Turny Steps (Fear for the Future) . . . . . . . . . 235
53. Te Diet Fail (Having a Bad Day) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 239
54. Slides and Ladders (Overcoming Obstacles). . . . . . . . . . 243
55. Te Trauma Lake (Foundations for Change) . . . . . . . . . 247
56. Te Hidden Path (Inspiration) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 251